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	<title>The Happy Surprise</title>
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		<title>Quick to Quit</title>
		<link>http://kbonikowsky.wordpress.com/2009/11/06/quick-to-quit-2/</link>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 06 Nov 2009 19:29:13 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[One of the most discouraging things in life, to me, is when fellow workers either don&#8217;t follow through on their commitments, or complain about how hard it is to do things I work very hard at being cheerfully faithful at. I begin to think, &#8220;Am I a big geek because I keep at this thing [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=kbonikowsky.wordpress.com&blog=3396788&post=765&subd=kbonikowsky&ref=&feed=1" />]]></description>
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		<title>Smelly Grace</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 05 Nov 2009 22:58:28 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>kbonikowsky</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[I heard this illustration from Don Marlyne (Berean Baptist Church Griffin, GA). I fluffed it up for an article in The Spectacle.

It is Monday morning. Time to get ready for work. I do my usual routine; shower, hair, tooth-brushing, get dressed, put on perfume, grab a cup of coffee, check on the dog. This is [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=kbonikowsky.wordpress.com&blog=3396788&post=762&subd=kbonikowsky&ref=&feed=1" />]]></description>
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		<title>Quit Complaining&#8230;or Die.</title>
		<link>http://kbonikowsky.wordpress.com/2009/09/29/quit-complaining-or-die/</link>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 29 Sep 2009 19:32:46 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Adults whine too.

Life sucks. Why can't I have a bigger house? Why does the policeman always pull me over? I need more time to myself. My kids don't appreciate me enough. My husband doesn't tell me he loves me. Why can't things be the way they used to be? Why is gas so expensive!? Why does no one help me when I need it? I feel unhappy.

I don't usually think of grown-ups complaining, but we do it as much as my tantrum-throwing toddler. Our adult version of whining often masquerades behind a "mood." A pervasive bad feeling that sits in our gut and spoils our enjoyment with life. A gripe props up bitterness. A whine fuels depression. A complaint motivates  a bad temper. A grumble spoon-feeds heartache.<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=kbonikowsky.wordpress.com&blog=3396788&post=717&subd=kbonikowsky&ref=&feed=1" />]]></description>
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		<title>Take the First Step</title>
		<link>http://kbonikowsky.wordpress.com/2009/09/18/take-the-first-step/</link>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 18 Sep 2009 17:21:29 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>kbonikowsky</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Leadership]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Initiative]]></category>

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		<description><![CDATA[Finally, writing more on leadership. Read my first posts here and scroll down.

A leader will have initiative.
A leader will have initiative. I believe this so strongly, that I will go so far to say that any person with initiative is a leader.
The American Heritage® Dictionary defines initiative as the power or ability to begin or [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=kbonikowsky.wordpress.com&blog=3396788&post=677&subd=kbonikowsky&ref=&feed=1" />]]></description>
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		<title>Forgiving is unfair and brutal.</title>
		<link>http://kbonikowsky.wordpress.com/2009/09/17/forgiving-is-unfair-and-brutal/</link>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 17 Sep 2009 16:47:23 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>kbonikowsky</dc:creator>
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		<category><![CDATA[forgiveness]]></category>

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		<description><![CDATA[When we&#8217;ve screwed up really bad, seeking forgiveness is the only option left to us. Usually we feel dreadful remorse for our action.
If only I could rewind time, I&#8217;d do everything differently! 
I can&#8217;t believe I did this! 
If only I knew now what I knew then, I wouldn&#8217;t have behaved like that!
But all those [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=kbonikowsky.wordpress.com&blog=3396788&post=681&subd=kbonikowsky&ref=&feed=1" />]]></description>
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		<title>Imbalanced and Evil Christianity</title>
		<link>http://kbonikowsky.wordpress.com/2009/07/03/imbalanced-and-evil-christianity/</link>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 03 Jul 2009 16:20:32 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>kbonikowsky</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://kbonikowsky.wordpress.com/?p=669</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[I have been following the blog of a couple of ladies who have left the faith because of the guilt laden and legalistic (and I will say heretical) patriarchy movement festering the corners of Christianity. Their courage and faith journey is documented with humor and poignant sorrow. I am rebuked and strengthened by their words.
No [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=kbonikowsky.wordpress.com&blog=3396788&post=669&subd=kbonikowsky&ref=&feed=1" />]]></description>
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		<title>Follow the Leader</title>
		<link>http://kbonikowsky.wordpress.com/2009/06/30/follow-the-leader/</link>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 30 Jun 2009 17:52:20 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>kbonikowsky</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Leadership]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[I&#8217;ve been thinking and thinking about leadership per my post here.  I ask myself this:
&#8220;What is it that makes people follow others?&#8221;
&#8220;Some leaders didn&#8217;t want to lead, but were &#8220;forced&#8221; into it by necessity. So, its not always desire to lead that makes a leader.&#8221;
&#8220;Some leaders are notoriously bad at management, so organizational skills are [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=kbonikowsky.wordpress.com&blog=3396788&post=637&subd=kbonikowsky&ref=&feed=1" />]]></description>
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		<title>Radical Man!</title>
		<link>http://kbonikowsky.wordpress.com/2009/06/10/radical-man/</link>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 10 Jun 2009 16:59:21 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>kbonikowsky</dc:creator>
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		<category><![CDATA[Scott Resnick]]></category>

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		<description><![CDATA[&#8220;Charm is deceitful and beauty is vain, But a woman who fears the LORD, she shall be praised. I don&#8217;t think you&#8217;re deceitful or vain, do you?&#8221;
How&#8217;s that for a pick up line? Those are the words Scott Resnick wrote me fifteen years ago in college. I will never forget his wit. Scott died in [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=kbonikowsky.wordpress.com&blog=3396788&post=642&subd=kbonikowsky&ref=&feed=1" />]]></description>
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		<title>Thinking about Leading</title>
		<link>http://kbonikowsky.wordpress.com/2009/05/21/thinking-about-leading/</link>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 21 May 2009 21:39:42 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>kbonikowsky</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Leadership]]></category>

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		<description><![CDATA[My pastor asked me about using the program I run at church as a means to train leaders for our church and community. As a result, I&#8217;ve been contemplating the difference between a leader and a follower. For my benefit, I&#8217;d like to do a series of posts exploring specific traits that a person can [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=kbonikowsky.wordpress.com&blog=3396788&post=633&subd=kbonikowsky&ref=&feed=1" />]]></description>
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		<title>It takes two to gossip</title>
		<link>http://kbonikowsky.wordpress.com/2009/05/19/it-takes-two-to-gossip/</link>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 20 May 2009 02:58:41 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>kbonikowsky</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Do you hear gossip? If you allow slander in your presence, you are an accessory. You are enabling sinful communication when you have the power to end it. How do you stop it?
Speak up
Here are some ideas on how to stop the conversation.
“Okay, this conversation is going somewhere I don’t want to go.”
“Please stop. I [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=kbonikowsky.wordpress.com&blog=3396788&post=631&subd=kbonikowsky&ref=&feed=1" />]]></description>
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